ACCS 2023: How to Teach Our Kids to Defend Against Radical Gender Ideology

 In Notes, Transgenderism

This page contains the resources used/quoted by Kenneth Ortiz in the presentation “How to Teach Our Kids to Defend Against Radical Gender Ideology” given at the annual ACCS conference on June 23, 2023.


Books cited:

“The Rise and Triumph of the Modern Self” (by Carl Trueman)

“Strange New World” (by Carl Trueman)

“Love Thy Body” (by Nancy R. Pearcey)

“Irreversible Damage” (by Abigail Shrier)

“Don’t Miss It” (by Reggie Joiner and Kristen Ivy)

“Designed for Joy” (edited by Jonathan Parnell and Owen Strachan)

“Ride Sally Ride” (by Doug Wilson)

“Men and Women in the Church” (by Kevin DeYoung)

“The Brain That Changes Itself” (by Norman Doidge)

“The Demise of Guys” (by Phillip Zimbardo and Nikita Duncan)


Links for articles/papers cited:

Talking to Your Kids About Transgender Issues

How to Talk to Your Kids About Transgender Ideology

By Any Other Name

The Lived Experience of Christian Parents of Transgender Children: An Exploration of the Relationship Between Faith and Parenting Through the Framework of Family Systems Theory

Pre-teenage Transgender Children: Their Families and Education

Talking With Your Children About Transgender Issues

How to Teach Your Kid What Transgender Means

Talking Trans With Your Kids

Teachers Forced to Conceal Students’ Gender Transition from Parents

Watching pornography rewires the brain to a more juvenile state

TED Talk: Demise of Guys (Phillip Zimbardo)

Common Sense Media survey finds average age kids were exposed to pornography was 12 years old

Excessive screen time during infancy may be linked to lower cognitive skills later in childhood


Workshop Outline/Notes


  • Must have good understanding of men and women
  • Place great emphasis on the reality that we’re designed differently
  • Highlight and celebrate differences
  • Pray for your children

Ages 3 to 5:

  • Make much of nature
  • Become a “curious Christian”
  • Avoid slang terms for genitalia
  • Define “love”

Ages 5 to 8:

  • Have regular conversations about the nature of love
  • Talk about brokenness in our world
  • Talk about some people being confused (e.g., gender dysphoria)
  • Teach and model lament as a response
  • Model Compassion
  • Process every moment where there may be some confusion
  • Ask good follow-up questions
  • “Stack the deck” (partner with other families)

Ages 9 to 11:

  • Once kids show any signs of puberty, you’ll want to have some more in depth conversations around sexuality
  • Explain Biblical live vs. society’s wrong understanding of love
  • Explain how those suffering from gender dysphoria are taken advantage of
  • Minimize screen time (especially for boys)
  • Be careful with sarcasm

Ages 12 to 13:

  • Teach them the history of transgender movement
  • Teach them when the terms “gender” and “sex” were changed
  • Teach the illogical/incoherence of this modern movement
  • Use examples of radical gender ideology to teach logical fallacies